So as we head towards the end of 2015, I feel like it’s an appropriate time to sit back and reflect on what I have achieved and learnt this year. I have to be honest when 2015 started I had no idea it was going to turn out as hectic as it has been, (Hi Nora, here’s looking at you little lady). But anyway 2015 has been a mega learning curve for me in the best ways possible. I’ve achieved more this year than I ever thought I could. Even in the worst of times Yvo and I have stood side by side and we’re raising a pretty happy baby *high 5 partner*. Anyway these are 15 things (for 2015, see what I did there), that I’ve learnt this year about life and myself.
1.) As much as you might try, you cannot plan for life. Like most things the most random and unplanned events are the best. Give up trying to plan! (This would be an appropriate time for a nice inspirational quote)*
2.) Don’t try and be friends with everyone. You’re not going to like everyone and not everyone is going to like you. Suck it up!
3.) As you start to grow up you’re naturally going to drift away from people. Don’t mourn this as a loss, embrace the changes and the people that have stuck it out with you.
4.) Little gestures go a long way. Don’t underestimate the power of being thoughtful over flashy.
5.) Babies and dogs are remarkably similar. They both poo a lot, sleep even more and enjoy being outside.
6.) Don’t take people for granted, let the people around you know you’re grateful for what they’re doing. Saying thank you is one of the most important things you can do!
7.) Time is the most precious thing in the world, embrace the little moments. Don’t keep looking for the big moments and wishing away time. Those ordinary moments are pretty extraordinary when you look back on them.
8.) Family. Family. Family. And those that are basically like family. It is so important to surround yourselves with these people, they are the most important in the world. They’re the best support network you will ever have and they are always there when you need them.
9.) Don’t forget to have fun! Yes sometimes shit can get serious and really get you down. But sometimes life can be really fun and you get to enjoy some really awesome times.
10.) Following on from the above, embrace the curve balls that life throws you. You never know what’s going to happen!
11.) Don’t neglect yourself and think your less important.I think this is one of the major mistakes that all new mums make, thinking that your well being means less than those around you. However it’s so important that we realise that our physical and mental health are just as important as everyone else’s. Take time for you.
12.) Your partner is on your side. I have often struggled to let people in and let down the walls I built up over many years stopping people from getting too close. However this year I learnt that Yvo and I, we’re a team, things are so much easier and better when we work together, things all turn out better when we work on something together.
13.) Don’t be jealous of what other people have, be grateful for what you’ve got. Stop lusting after things you don’t need and haven’t got. You have so many things to be grateful for, stop being so spoilt!
14.) Similarly stop comparing yourself to everyone, you are your own person with your own wonderful family. Stop comparing what you have to your friends, your lives are so different and you have things they don’t. Stop being so jealous, green has never been your colour!
15.) Stop saying no. Life is far more exciting when you say yes to things. Say yes to that event, say yes when Yvo asks you to do something and say yes when someone asks you to do a favour. You get so much more out of life when you put more in.
There you have it, the 15 ridiculously cheesy and simple things that I learnt in 2015. I am so excited for what 2016 has in store for my family and I. I’ve never been a resolution kind of gal however like many things this year that might change, watch this space for another post about what I hope to achieve in 2016.
*Reading this post back it all sounds a bit like I’ve swallowed a couple of hundred motivational posters. I promise this is not the case.